The Grade Whisperer is an occasional feature in which I use the Study Hacks philosophy of do less, do better, and know why, to help students overcome their academic problems.
The Parent Trap
I recently received an e-mail from a student whom I’ll call Karen. She is a sophomore at a top-20 university and is struggling with her parents’ ambitious plans for her college career.
As Karen explained: “Deep down my parents just want to make sure I have a better life than they do.”
But their relentless pressure for Karen to become a doctor (“they argue that doctors have stable jobs”) eventually became too much to handle.
“Second semester of my freshman year I put my foot down,” Karen recalls. “After a tearful and hurtful argument they finally relented and said I should try economics instead.”
But this compromise hasn’t gone well.
“I’m struggling…because I’m simply not interested in my economics courses,” Karen told me. “My history of human rights course, however, is absolutely fascinating and actually made me seriously consider going to law school and maybe getting an MPA in Public Affairs, or even going to business school.”
Karen reduced her woes to three questions:
- “Should I stay at my school? And if so, should I change my major?
- “Should I transfer?”
- “Should I take a gap semester or year off?”
“I’m just sick of trying to be someone I’m not, but I have this deep-seated fear of being a starving person on the street if I follow my passions.”
Sounds like a job for the Grade Whisperer…



